He’s Been Polished By Life

Every once in a while something good comes along.  In this case, “someone” good comes along.  I would like to introduce you to Scott Sonnon; The Flow Coach.

If your the sort that goes for facts/information and a list of accolades, you need to be sure to read through his long list.  I on the other hand am most impressed with those that have lived a tale and share their story.  They have moved past many emotional barriers and are open and willing to share.

I really want you to “meet” him for yourself, rather than from me.  I really want you to read his stories about his life experiences, rather than from me.  I am certain at least one of his experiences will relate to not only you, but a place in your life you have been or currently are.

Enjoy…….live well and prosper.


What Does Money Buy, a story on procrastination

“I for one, quite contrary to what many people say, believe without a doubt, that money does buy happiness”.

In enjoying a long weekend and getting to sorting through that pile of papers that has shifted spots numerous times, I came across some of the journal writings of the last couple of years.

This particular one, was written almost EXACTLY a year ago; July 5th 2011.  It pleases me that I can see the growth in myself and circumstances to be in a far better place.

It’s always a toss up as to which is more pressing; health or wealth.  Having mastered many areas of my health, the wealth was, shall we say,  a work in progress.  You may see the subtle progress in health buy your energy levels, reduction in aches or pains, or even by the lowering of the digits on the scale.  BUT when you commit to the  journey of financial wellness the changes are much clearer.  So, yes, here we are a year later, a year healthier.

“The other thing money buys is, freedom.  How ironic, after a weekend of celebrating freedom in both the U.S.A and Canada, my freedom has been temporary snatched from me on two levels.

The first, I actually found out about on the Friday afternoon once the mail came in. In attempting to deal with it on several levels, the decision stands – my drivers license was suspended due to an outstanding speeding ticket of $50.  The price for this freedom will now be $77.50, which was paid today.  Then in four days a price of $150 will earn me back my privilege to drive.

As close as I am to my children, they know nothing of this.

Although there is one practice I can honestly say I NEVER participate in (beat myself up with unsupported language), I am extremely embarrassed about my choice in allowing this to happen.

I am sticking with my level of integrity and will for the remainder of the week become a walker.

The other privilege was our internet.  Our supplier is merciless with even one month behind and today this modern, often taken for granted technology, was cut off.  A prompt payment was made and we will have our service back ……in 3 days.  This situation, needless to say, the children know about.

Do you see, both of these situations were result of procrastination and nothing more.

Normally I am a lover of and appreciate having the health and leisure of time to be able to walk in completing my to do list.  Funny how when you “have to” do something our attitude is different.

My walk to the court house was a silent one.  Just myself and my thoughts.  No Ipod, no affirmations just silence.

As I walked into the Court House the normal procedure of being scanned and contents of my bag being searched had me feeling like, well, a criminal.  The Police Officer cut the search short, smiled and motioned me through.  Surely, I thought, he knew the person I really am.  After a quick wait in line and in sitting at the clerks window, I was comforted and reassured by her and the process.  We made a vow to each other to never see each other again.

The steps of my walk home were lighter as I realized the mind set that got me into this predicament as well as the internet interruption – PROCRASTINATION.

Health and wealth, the two areas of the greatest challenge to people and families today has no wellness with procrastination.  For those of you in business, perhaps are aware and know that your business will only grow as far as you personally have gone.  Today I am wiser in my financial health.

One more story on procrastination.  A couple of weeks ago I purchased over 10 pounds of really good ground beef at a good price.  The intention was to make a summers full of “Mom burgers” for not only us, but to share with the numerous summer bbq’s we host for and with friends and family.  I was so proud of my “find” and looking forward to making and sharing.  The beef was well wrapped and tucked in the fridge.  “Tomorrow” I said, “tomorrow I will make them”.  Tomorrow came……..and went.  ONLY 2 days and it spoiled!

As in managing emotions, I have given procrastination “a being”.  By giving “it” and identity I better manage what I am faced with.  This is a practice I did in preparation for child birth.  Procrastination is a sneaky, beady eyed looking sort of character, similar to Gollum from Lord of the Rings.

I attract only beauty to my life.  In recognizing the image of procrastination I realize that I personally “open the door” and literally invite “him” into my life.  This then gives me the control and power to take care of “him”.  Rather than the “you can’t fix what you don’t acknowledged”  thought, for me “you can’t fix what you don’t see”.  See it, give it an identity then take care of it!

IF your still with me here, allow me just one more insight……..In stepping out of the Court House the very first thing I saw was a Z4!  This is my dream car.  We all have a tangible “thing” that we aim for.  That thing that we will know we’re “there” by it’s acquisition and for me it’s this little beauty.

I love road trips, the freedom of the open road and driving fast.  AHA!  The very thing that got me to the steps of the Court House and this temporary state of freedomless.    It is also one of my beliefs that once we manage our lives and only then, are we given the people and circumstances in our lives (and business) that will take us to the next level.

So me and The Universe (God) have a deal.  While I journey towards to the life of my dreams I will when driving the open roads, from now on, respect and obey safety and pay attention to posted speed limits”

There are many insights on procrastination.  Of the many things others share here is my “take”:

*we all have it and do it.  The less you have the better.  “What you do in anything you do in everything” – T.Harv Eker
*it is linked to perfectionism.  You don’t have to be perfect, you just have to get started
*doing takes a lot less energy than thinking about it.  Healthwise procrastination promotes insomnia, gastrointestinal issues, colds, flus, resentment, frustration
*even “rub on rub off” activities have value, you just don’t see it and you don’t need to
*NUMBER ONE way to avoid success in ANYTHING in life

What is procrastination costing you?

Health/Weight “Day of Disgust”

I’m going to get the ball rolling on “Day of Disgust”.  Over my years I can honestly say that my “Days” have been numerous.

As soon as I read the words in “The Slight Edge” I got a pang in my solar plexus. (That’s my spot where stress and emotion hits).

Growing up with a family of three girls, I was “the busy one”; always active.  “Back in those days” there were not as many formal organized things for kids to do.  Although I do remember the Optimist Clubs Boys Club, Brownies/Girl Guides and swimming lessons only in the summer at an outdoor pool, most of our sports were done on the street, in the neighborhood.

Every house had at least two kids.  There was always a street hockey game, baseball game, races, bike riding, building homemade tents in the back yard with lawn chairs and sheets.  I remember the summer and the park Supie.  I’d be the first kid there.  My shoes would be wet with the dew still covering the grass as I ran over to the picnic table to wait for their arrival.

Then “somewhere” in my mid teens I became lazy.  This carried over to my early twenties.  I suppose if I had attended post secondary it would be called then freshman 15.  This quickly advanced to the College 20.  Really, I don’t remember what my weight was; something tells me that I really didn’t care at that point.  What I do remember is approaching a size 18 in clothes.

The circumstance that got my attention was the day I went to turn on the shower.  Bee stings and cuts and scrapes from busy childhood days could not have compared to the pain I felt in my back.  Piercing and excruciating!  That was my “day of disgust”.

I had neglected my body and now it was letting me know.  It may have “spoken” to me in more subtle ways that I didn’t hear.  Now, I was listening.  What is even more interesting is that in being younger I had not learned the art of blaming; blaming others for my lack of health.  I didn’t blame the friends I was hanging around with for poor lifestyle habits and most importantly, I didn’t blame myself.  I had a physical pain and my focus was on getting better.  Getting back to my youth.

Hence, my wellness journey started.

The only tidbit I picked up at that point was that a weak back can be “fixed” by strengthening your abs.  Back then there were no terms like “core”.  I set to work with focus on my abs.  With watching Richard Simmons, The 20 Minute Workout (yes I am THAT “old”) I got some tidbits.  On account that I was now more aware of my body and size and lack of conditioning I did my cardio indoors with the form of skipping.  Skipping and armed with the skills to move my body in an intuitive manner with focus on my abs and LOTS of stretching, I quickly progressed.  YAY, now I’m ready to go outdoors…….running.

Oh my, how I loved running.  THIS is where my nutrition started to come into play.  As well, my deep roots for the love of the outdoors were nurtured.  Early morning alarms to take the hardest step, the first one out the door to get the kilometers done.   Packing my bag to get some more running at lunch while for the brief period of time when I worked with a “inbox” in a UGH……cubical.  These running sessions were my saviour!  Around and around and around the little track I would go in the noon sun.  Geesh, I think it took twenty something laps to get a mile done; counting each and every one on my fingers.  I ran and enjoyed running in the noon sun, rain and snow.  Interestingly my greatest nemesis was the wind.  That resistance as much as I hated it I took it on.  And I conquered it on many occasions.

Do you see a pattern?  Do what you gotta do!!!!

In doing respectfully in 5 and 10 k races I was becoming very skinny and besides my one shoulder was getting a tad sore.  Time to take it to the gym…………

THIS, THIS is where my greatest awareness into myself was learned, with the weights.  Skills: My level of goal setting, being able to be a visionary, accountability to myself, feeding your body EXACTLY what it needs, working through pain, getting up after you’ve been knocked down, slowing down, ramping it up, focus, being better and stronger and celebration.  All these skills enable me to now share with you.

We are motivated by pain or pleasure.  I have learned to be a bit gentler on myself and although the warm and fuzzy part of me likes to think I get motivated by pleasure, it is now in writing this that I recognize my very best growth was birthed from pain.  I continually need to be reminded about the child in me and that I need to move, stretch, and strengthen.

IF right now, January 2, 2013 is your “Day of Disgust”, know that there are answers.

“The most beautiful people are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”